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she believes his differences are the key to her happiness…

written by ChristingC September 3, 2009
H&M waistcoat, Topshop tunic/top and necklace, Zara heels.

A few posts back, I expressed a slight aversion to being different, wanting to descend from one place rather than ten. Although at times I wish my life and family were normal, I actually now embrace my unique lifestyle, family, and marriage.

In my teens I despised being “weird.” I pretended to not speak Mandarin, and yearned to be a “normal.” American, suburban family. My brother managed to play the part perfectly. He was on the varsity football team, threw keg parties, was incredibly popular, lived on fast food, and dated the prettiest girls (but never committed to one.) I on the other hand was not built to belong. I hated Abercrombie and 4-hole brown Doc Martens, but was swayed to mimic the uniform. My dinner of choice was always seafood, all kinds, whether it was raw or obscure. I enjoyed a refreshing novel over any music video, and wasn’t interested in dating jocks with polo shirts. My differences kept me at a distance from my friends, never having them as dinner guests, only wearing my fashion choices on vacations, and always spending summers in Hong Kong avoiding the boundaries my friendships built.

Luckily I escaped after junior high, commencing the international life which suited me best. I now realize “weird” can be a very good thing, and I’m happy to say my family, husband, and I are very “weird.” We married very young ignoring the many judgements from our friends. We do not desire children early, reside in a messy studio, party most nights, and don’t possess normal careers. He surprisingly is not phased by anything, his favorite dish at dim sum is chicken feet, would never wear a suit and tie, and is happy to take Sambucca shots with my Dad at a nightclub. We revel in our weirdness, shoving aside any expectations about marriage or career people throw our way, and I’m sure we’re happier than most “normal” people I know.

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Jacqueline September 3, 2009 at 1:38 pm

You look great as does the food!

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Domennie September 3, 2009 at 2:27 pm

love the balloon tunic:)

PUNKIE September 3, 2009 at 2:42 pm

beautiful look! this sandals are gorgeous!

COME OVER TO THE DARK SIDE... WE HAVE CANDY September 3, 2009 at 2:57 pm

WOW GREAT LOOK! You always look AMAZING!
Did you just bought the tunic? Don’t know what it is but I just can’t find a normall basic long top is this colour? :S how hard can it be?

Suzanne September 3, 2009 at 3:49 pm

love your necklace, it’s beautiful!

styletrip September 3, 2009 at 4:24 pm

I’m really happy someone else shares my perspective on life. I will marry this october and we also do not fit in any social conventions regarding marriage and family. And as you said, we’re as happy as a couple can ever be. I’m glad:D

Heather September 3, 2009 at 5:33 pm

Great outfit — LOVE that necklace!

I just started following you. 🙂


thischicksgotstyle September 3, 2009 at 5:54 pm

Beautiful, your necklace is so pretty!!

Jk Grace September 3, 2009 at 6:51 pm

I love it!!!

anacecilia September 4, 2009 at 1:11 am

this by far is my favorite post of yours.
i too always “desiered” to be “normal”
but now im happier then most people i know as well, i too live with my hunny and dont desire children till my late 20’s i love the way i run my life and it is nothing like anyone else i know 🙂
its unique.

Tenny September 4, 2009 at 1:26 am

i get your views on being different. i tried to run from it when i was younger, but as i get older i’ve realized not only will i never be like the majority of my peers in suburbia, but i would never want to be either


Clara September 4, 2009 at 2:54 am

great look!
beautiful photos!

Dylana September 4, 2009 at 4:25 am

That food looks amazing and you look amazing!


Joan September 4, 2009 at 5:53 am

Wow, I wish I have the courage you had to just pick up and leave and to turn a new leaf in an entirely different country.

I believe your blog is just as inspiring as it is amazing and filled with great outfits!

beatriz September 4, 2009 at 7:54 am

simple and beautiful look! I love your heels!
un saludo 🙂

Emilie September 4, 2009 at 8:07 am


Atenea September 4, 2009 at 3:13 pm

I like so much your nude sandals 😉

Vanessa September 4, 2009 at 3:23 pm

Love the outfit!

Luna September 5, 2009 at 5:27 pm

cool shoes

Violet September 7, 2009 at 3:45 am

the shoes are so cute…. nice look altogther

Vi from Cali


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